Dockett# 09000027

Update

I called my township and spoke to the municipal court who informs me that the case has been transferred to the County Prosecutor. I called them and they transferred me to the Victim advocate. I spoke with a very nice woman, Amy McGuire, who said the case was transferred to them because he is being charged with two crimes. 3rd degree Theft and 4th degree Breaking and Entering. I think it should be the opposite with 1st degrees being the most serious. But they know the law.

She said the State Police (Trooper Bounds) has to send his reports to the Capitol in Trenton and it takes a while. So the hearing will not be for a few months. I gave her my phone numbers and the dates I will be away and she said she will send me the blue Victim report. With that I can write down my costs and it can be made part of the case for restitution. Perfect. I am getting estimates and have pictures.

I also asked where Matt would get the best help and she said whatever was available was available at both levels. County and Township. She also said the blue form she is sending has a place on the back for my thoughts and feelings.

I told her about my Jan 1st early morning visit from Matt's wife and the visit from Matt before he signed the arrest warrent (when I told him to go away and he did) and she said that could be considered witness tampering. Me being the witness. Which would be an additional charge to Matt.

I corrected her and said no tampering was done -I am the victim and the witness and I WILL be at the hearing. I want no pound of flesh or any blood. (thank you Wil Shakespeare and Trooper Wil Bounds) I do want the money I am spending on the repairs and as much help for this man as he can get. But>>

I realize he is an habitual criminal as soon as he does his drug(s) of choice. At 33 or 35 I have written him off as worthless to me and society. But somebody still loves him -his 1 year old son -if no other mortal being. So>>>>>

I fear, dear Portia, the quality of MY mercy is a bit strained.

I have to work on that.

A Crying Shame or Forgive Those who Tresspass Against Us

POST ROBBERY



I am not doing so well with the anger and forgiveness, but i am praying on it. Cleaning up the glass and calling for estimates on replacement glass and washing everything in my dresser drawers and replacing just what I need and downsizing what i don't.

My cousin Dave came down and took out the glass still in the frame and took out the frame and replaced it with a 1/2 inch pc. of plywood. I wish i could say i helped but i was on my way to the gym when he drove into my neighborhood. He said GO to the gym you need the stress relief -and because i really did; I left. when i got back he was out getting the plywood and his wife had cleaned up the glass. Thank you!!!!


Monday morning I was awakened by a knock at by door -It was Matt -back from the Florida rehab. I said -through the door -"Go away Matt -I cant talk to you" So he went back across the street to his mothers house. The Trooper had told me that he usually advised the Victims -not to talk to the perp. It seemed like good advice -especially since I still had no idea what to say and..............well I know one of the AA 12 steps was to talk to the people hurt. I just wasn't ready to make nice and let him apologize. I know the whole thing is a shame. But..............

It is Matt's shame and I am not ready to forgive. Well I guess I am but I can not forget. I am still so angry.


My Homeowners has a$500.00 deductible . Figures. Now I am waiting for the estimate and i will ask the Judge to include that in the judgement.


YEP, after Matt left on Monday -I called the State Police and told them he was back in the State. The Trooper I worked with wasn't on duty till 5 pm . But I let the desk Trooper know what was going on. Then I called back at 9pm and Matt was there turning himself in and signing the arrest warrant. He is released on his own recognizance. I asked if I would be notified when the hearing was to be. The trooper said -"OH yes you will be subpoenaed."


I have tickets to go to Florida for three weeks and now i may have to change them. If i do, I am including that in my total out of pocket costs. I have to get dead blots and locks and keys changed.


I supposed i should be glad i had this little wake up call to get better security and i did get all my jewelry back and he didn't trash my place (ok yes I WOULD know if my placed was trashed).


But I am angry. I eat everything not tied down . I know i am gaining weight. I am working on calm and forgiveness.

I can not imagine how my neighbor of 30 years (and I thought my friend), his mother, must be feeling because ...........well.....she hasn't called me or come over to see how I am.

And that is the other thing I will never forget.

My brother said I soon need to reach out to her. But he is a much better person than I ever will be. I have to work on that.

This whole mess is a crying shame.